Beyond the Visible Spectrum

cybercitrus: People that think they are going to be magically independent when they become...

Fri, 24 May 2013 16:10:21 -0400

People that think they are going to be magically independent when they become 18.

bunnika: I seriously just had to teach my mother some basics of...

Fri, 24 May 2013 16:09:24 -0400

I seriously just had to teach my mother some basics of parenting.

Both photos are of my daughter in October, the first in 2011, the second in 2012. I let her pick out her own clothes, shoes, haircuts, hair colors, anything superficial, really. She’s too young to understand the permanence of piercings, so she doesn’t have any. But hair grows, shoes get grown out of, clothes go threadbare. These things don’t really matter—shouldn’t really matter—but anyone raising a gender-variant child knows the world isn’t that kind.

My daughter recently requested a haircut like mine. A long flop on top, pixie-length fade on the back and sides. She’s been bugging me for weeks to color her hair again, I just haven’t had the time. But today she came to me with the same shyness she keeps developing when outside our home; she’s being pressured by peers and family to look “normal,” to grow her hair long and uncolored, to dress a certain way (she hates to match), to indulge in self-consciousness, and alter or not alter her appearance to gain the approval of others, and society at large.

THIS FUCKING INFURIATES ME.

I called my mother tonight, because my daughter had become shy again, and didn’t want to color her hair anymore, and she said it was because of what her Nana had said to her. My mother told me we should get that spray-on Halloween hair colors, so it wouldn’t be so “permanent” and my daughter could be “normal” again to avoid being bullied.

IT IS NOT THE JOB OF THE VICTIM TO STOP BEING BULLIED. IT IS THE BULLY’S JOB TO STOP BULLYING.

I know she gets teased sometimes, and we always talk about it. She stays strong and confident, so long as she has the support of those around her. But what that support falters, or pulls a 180, she’s left to crash.

She also gets teased for liking dinosaurs and not dolls. She gets teased for preferring roughhousing to playing house. She gets teased for liking Lightning McQueen and not Cinderella. Where do we draw the line?

My mother thinks this is a “minor” thing, that it’s better to just blend in. But it would plant the seed of doubt, it forms the foundation for queer kids staying in the closet, for disabled kids to feel worthless, for young girls accepting abusive partners. This is not “minor,” it is fucking MAJOR, because this is my daughter’s foundation, and it will shape her life.

Support your fucking kids. Let them be who they want to be, look how they want to look, and play how they want to play. And make sure they know that you will love them no matter what.

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Fri, 24 May 2013 16:05:42 -0400

Throwing a party for a friend tonight who is moving.

Thu, 23 May 2013 15:12:54 -0400

leleleleah:

I have no idea what to do. A bunch of people I barely know are coming over and I have no idea how to entertain them. Is playing monopoly still a socially acceptable thing to do at a party? It’s even the Disney addition!

CAN I BRING MONSTER’S INC LIFE BACK OVER??

andiindeed: If somebody asks you to unfollow them and you don’t you have instantly made yourself...

Thu, 23 May 2013 13:03:36 -0400

andiindeed:

If somebody asks you to unfollow them and you don’t you have instantly made yourself invasive and are putting yourself into the shoes of abuser.

No exception.

thatfunnyblog: My friend wanted a sexy action shot of her...

Thu, 23 May 2013 12:58:46 -0400

thatfunnyblog:

My friend wanted a sexy action shot of her coming up out of the water and I sort of pressed it too early and…

chinkerbelle: follylollysews: Chances are, if you’ve logged...

Wed, 22 May 2013 16:45:07 -0400

chinkerbelle:

follylollysews:

Chances are, if you’ve logged into tumblr within the past week you’ve noticed that there’s an awful lot of Pokemon splicing going on. I was particularly fond of the cute Koffing splices so I made plushies of Chanfing and Raifing *u*

(Update: Chanfing is available on ebay now!)

WHAT THE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Wed, 22 May 2013 16:42:52 -0400

tyleroakley: Oops.

Wed, 22 May 2013 16:42:45 -0400

tyleroakley:

Oops.

canikon-bokeh: myke-n-ike: No fucks were given DOGS...

Wed, 22 May 2013 16:39:55 -0400

canikon-bokeh:

myke-n-ike:

No fucks were given

DOGS ENCOURAGED.

davidesky2: Sean Thornton anti-travel poster for Hero Complex...

Wed, 22 May 2013 16:36:49 -0400

davidesky2:

Sean Thornton anti-travel poster for Hero Complex Gallery’s Arch Nemesis show, via 411posters.

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Wed, 22 May 2013 16:29:31 -0400

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Wed, 22 May 2013 15:50:43 -0400

zarifxmiah: if you start a sentence with “i’m not a racist but…” then please stop talking.

Wed, 22 May 2013 13:46:50 -0400

zarifxmiah:

if you start a sentence with “i’m not a racist but…” then please stop talking.

disneymagicman: Him and his beard are lovely

Wed, 22 May 2013 10:16:14 -0400

disneymagicman:

Him and his beard are lovely

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Wed, 22 May 2013 07:46:02 -0400

thedaintysquid: OHMYGOSH.

Tue, 21 May 2013 15:09:20 -0400

thedaintysquid:

OHMYGOSH.

lolsofunny: (lol here!)

Tue, 21 May 2013 12:45:55 -0400

lolsofunny:

(lol here!)

dreamto-fly: I JUST SPAT ALL OVER MY SCREEN OH MY GOD

Tue, 21 May 2013 11:24:10 -0400

dreamto-fly:

I JUST SPAT ALL OVER MY SCREEN OH MY GOD

Florida Teen Expelled, Charged With Felony For Lesbian Relationship

Mon, 20 May 2013 16:13:53 -0400

Florida Teen Expelled, Charged With Felony For Lesbian Relationship:

queernewsnetwork:

This is absolutely disgusting. The fact that things like this happen in 2013 is frustrating, and I quite frankly cannot stand the idea.

A Florida family says their 18-year-old daughter was charged with a felony and expelled from high school as a result of a consensual, same-sex relationship with another student.

Kaitlyn Hunt started dating a female classmate at the beginning of the school year when she was 17 and the girl she was dating was 15. According to an account posted to Facebook by Kaitlyn’s mother, in February, just after Kaitlyn turned 18, she was arrested on felony charges at the behest of her girlfriend’s parents. The specific crime was “sexual battery on a person 12-16 years old.”

Kaitlyn’s mother believes the charges were motivated by anti-gay animus:

They were out to destroy my daughter, they feel like my daughter “made” their daughter gay. They are bigoted, religious zeolites [sic] that see being gay as a sin and wrong, and they blame my daughter.

But Kaitlyn’s problems did not end there. Her girlfriends’s parents appealed to the school board and had her expelled from Sebastian River High School. Kaitlyn’s mom reports that the State Attorney, Brian Workman, has offered Kaitlyn a plea deal of “of two years house arrest and one year probation.” Kaitlyn has until next Friday to accept the plea deal or face a trial.

The family has started a petition calling on the state attorney to drop the charges against Kaitlyn.